What Blair and the Heat Pumps NOW team went through in 2018 can happen to anyone or any business. In a recent interview, Blair shared his experiences.
When business goes from good to bad
“By August 2018 I hadn’t slept properly in weeks. The stress was really getting to me. I’d wake up drenched in sweat, wired like I’d been hit by a taser for two weeks solid. I was walking around the house with my wife in kids in silence, but inside I was screaming because I just didn’t know what to do.”
“This business is my livelihood. More than that, my employees depend on me for their livelihoods as well so they can take care of their families. But I was completely alone. I hadn’t said anything to anyone. They were some very dark days with some dark thoughts.”
Reach out when you need help
“I called two friends of mine, an accountant and credit manager. I said, ‘I’m calling from my garage,’ and Jeannette, my credit manager said ‘That can’t be good.’ I told them everything, and they dropped everything to come and see me to work out a plan to move forward.
“I would say that I had created a mental and emotional prison for myself that was manifesting itself physically in my night sweats and agony. But the thing with a prison of this making is that the door isn’t actually locked. I’m not saying it’s easy. Truth was, I was a broken man. But the feeling once I had pushed the door open and started talking open and honestly with my trusted advisors and my wife was incredibly relieving.”
What can you do?
“Number one, you have to reach out. It’s that simple. Talk to someone you trust. Seek professional help. You don’t have to go through it alone.”
“Developing mind strength is also important, but you can only do that when you reach out and seek help. Now when I wake up, I tell myself ‘I am in control and I’m present in this moment’ and that stops me from spiralling down into despair”
“Another tool that I’ve discovered fairly recently is the Gratitude Diaries. Every day I make a list of three things that I’m grateful for just before I go to bed. It’s simple, but it’s an incredible tool for refocusing your mind on the positive.”
It’s fair to say Christchurch has been through a lot in recent years. If something we’ve said here resonates with you, if you’re struggling and don’t know where to turn, help is available.
Need to talk? Please reach out.
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Lifeline – 0800 543 354 (0800 LIFELINE) or free text 4357 (HELP)
Suicide Crisis Helpline – 0508 828 865 (0508 TAUTOKO)
Healthline – 0800 611 116
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